Shining Positivity into your life has many layers. One layer is the possibility of watching your own struggle and shifting your perceptive filter. Watching yourself live and make mistakes doesn’t have to lead to self loathing or chronic disappointment in your physical or emotional self. ‘Mistakes’ such as putting your foot in your mouth, living out hormonal imbalance, maybe even internal tantrums don’t have to lead to beating your Self up every day. You don’t have to judge or assume labels such as immature or unworthy. Practice having just enough detachment so that your fumbles are much like watching a 1 year old trying to eat with a fork. See your learning as sincere, adorable, and clumsy; though seemingly unproductive, it’s truly beautiful. Your living and learning is a perfect process.
The scene is so often full of, “would have, should have’s, could have’s and if I could only!”. Pat those thoughts on the back and let them go. Allow room for understanding that, “When you know better, you do better.” We are all in a learning process, not a performance for your own line of judges to critique.
Moments tied together in what may become an endless stream of shaming ourselves, hating our bodies, or in fearing our own potential are a waste of energy and focus. Next time you are disciplining yourself for an action, thought or judgement, picture yourself speaking to the 1 year old who is just trying to learn how to use a fork to eat their waffle! Smile, sigh, laugh, take a drink, breathe… and try again. Be kind to yourself.
We are an amazing PROCESS.
Presence and Positivity 
Boy will the world be a happier place to be and explore when folks start doing this. Great entry!
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i’ve been in the practice of forgiveness and letting go of ‘should have’ and ‘if only’ for a number of years. i began with release of residual issues from youth. this practice was a solo task (which i think is important to mention if the person you want to resolve with is no longer living or perhaps no longer present in your life for other reasons) – my continual letting go when thoughts presented involved sometimes verbalizing “i forgive you” or “i forgive that action” and visualizing it fade away. this became an immediate go to when thoughts presented that previously plagued the psyche … until they didn’t present any longer. practicing in this way has led to an ability to immediately forgive and carry nothing – or, carry for a very short time before remembering that it feels so much better not to do that!
in this post, what i appreciate most is the direction you have taken with a process to love being focused on self. we have to nourish ourselves to better nourish others which entails making time to exercise, eating well, communing via spiritual practices that feel good to you, and and and being kind to yourself when you slip. while i naturally practice forgiveness and love towards others – the task of directing what i would so easily do for someone else is not always the first response for myself. i know this needs work and am going to single in on it for the coming days. thank you for helping to narrow focus and pinpoint the importance of being kind to ourselves!
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I love this website!!! Such thought provoking insight as to how to live a more wonderful life! Thank you for caring about people and stepping out to make our lives better!
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Thank you, Cindy!! Jess and I will walk around with floating balloons for hearts today ❤
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This is a constant struggle for me. So much harder on myself than I would ever be on someone else. A previous boss once told me, I never have to address issues with you because no one could be harder on you than you are….and he is right.
Thank you for these words of encouragement and reminders to be kind, patient and tolerant not only to others but to ourselves. At the end of the day learn to find joy, peace, laughter and contentment in knowing we did the best we could for ourselves and others.
I am most definitely a work in progress. Having
ladies like you in my life….I just might have a chance.
Blessings!
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This is a daily process and practice. I want it to be one of my best habits. Just like you, I know I can forgive and love others with gusto! The depths of out own internal dialog is another layer – we practice.
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