–Post by Pallavi Sukhia
What started out as a joke at first is gradually becoming something that I want as the mantra of my life. As my friend and I were out shopping one day, she looked at this pair of gorgeous pink boots and started debating whether or not to get them. As she looked at me for a second opinion, the words that came out of my mouth instinctively were ‘Get them, they deserve you!’
Advertisers have often tried to sell us products convincing us that we deserve them. Why not break away from that mold and decide whether or not the product is worthy of us?
Seems like an arrogant thought? Look at it this way – as women spend their entire lives playing various roles, often in tandem – daughter, coworker, wife, boss, mother – they tend to put themselves last. It is not uncommon for women to lose sight of their value, needs, and worth as an individual detached from all of those roles.
Why not surround yourself with things, people, and relationships that you feel deserve you? That have earned the privilege of being with you. Your emotions, time, money, and energy are valuable. Spend them on things and people that truly appreciate and acknowledge your worth. This will also help you dispense your resources in a mindful, thoughtful manner. Now go out and get that book, eat that last piece of candy, smell that flower – they all deserve you!
Thank you, Pallavi, for sharing your mantra with us!
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Great insight! I really enjoy reversing assumed perspectives like that. It can bring new insights and almost accidentally help a person expand their belief envelope!
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Definitely leaves me considering the value of things as well as use of time – leading into self talk – do those thoughts or words deserve me -does this work deserve me – does this activity deserve me? It’s good to feel worth, too, apart from the roles we play – so that , say you go through an identity crisis because of perhaps expected timing in younger years or not so expected timing later in life due to job change or a long term relationship ending – you come or continue to understand your own worth has nothing to do with any of those things – I appreciate that point.
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I love this thought and especially when it comes to consuming food and products we use on our bodies. What food deserves me and will help reflect my health, present and future. Thank you Pallavi!! I am also going to encourage my husband to read and reflect on this before the holidays 😉 😀
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in regards to food – i think this may get me into trouble – i’d say, “yes! that pie deserves me and that pie too.” (laughing – insert visual here of me running away with a pie in each hand – i adore the pies! mmmmmm – apple pie) oh, i think instead i would have to navigate myself towards, “it feels so good when i eat veggies and they never make me feel stuffed or lethargic – i feel so much lighter when i make healthy choices and that feeling deserves me.” instant gratification would have to be dulled with knowing the rewards of choosing the option that pays off later.
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