Pleasing

“Don’t compromise yourself.  You are all you’ve got.”   – Janis Joplin 

Many of us feel a need to please others.  We want others to like us.  If we move beyond that need to feed the ego being expressed through wanting others to like us and doing good at the surface being guided by this same need, we may move deeper into pleasing because we actually want others to feel good.  This can play into a routine of subjugating the self to please another and maybe also finding that the other is still not pleased!  What an exhausting cycle.  Sometimes, we do need to sacrifice the ego to please another.  It can be a very good practice.  However, there is a balance to this as with all things.  If you are being rolled over, dominated by another in order to have them pleased, I hope you will find the strength to stand up.  I hope you will find the words to speak your mind and truth.  I hope you can give a voice to your experience, no matter the emotional residence.  If we are always directed at pleasing another, the sense of self can be totally lost.  A high price.  Taking time to nourish the self first (and this is not to mean egotistical needs but healthy habits and spiritial practice) is vital in being anywhere close to the realization of successfully pleasing another.  If you are present with yourself and your own needs, your presence will naturally please those who are in line with your vibration.