A good way to determine who you want to spend time with and which relationships are healthy for you is in looking at how you feel with the person or people. Do you feel uplifted, understood, and valued? Do you feel seen? Do you feel free to express yourself as you are? Does the connection bring out the best in you? Take a moment with that one. Who are you in the relationship? What emerges between you and the other person or group? You can like someone and what they represent but not feel great about the convergence of personalities. Someone who is a friend to you will feel good to be around. That doesn’t mean they’re always going to say and do what you want because a true friend will instead choose what you need. That can be uncomfortable, but again who are you in the relationship? Will you be better for the advice or action? Are you respected?
Choose wisely because your connections determine so much about your experience.
Presence and Positivity 