Shining Positivity into your life has many layers. One layer is the possibility of watching your own struggle and shifting your perceptive filter. Watching yourself live and make mistakes doesn’t have to lead to self loathing or chronic disappointment in your physical or emotional self. ‘Mistakes’ such as putting your foot in your mouth, living out hormonal imbalance, maybe even internal tantrums don’t have to lead to beating your Self up every day. You don’t have to judge or assume labels such as immature or unworthy. Practice having just enough detachment so that your fumbles are much like watching a 1 year old trying to eat with a fork. See your learning as sincere, adorable, and clumsy; though seemingly unproductive, it’s truly beautiful. Your living and learning is a perfect process.
The scene is so often full of, “would have, should have’s, could have’s and if I could only!”. Pat those thoughts on the back and let them go. Allow room for understanding that, “When you know better, you do better.” We are all in a learning process, not a performance for your own line of judges to critique.
Moments tied together in what may become an endless stream of shaming ourselves, hating our bodies, or in fearing our own potential are a waste of energy and focus. Next time you are disciplining yourself for an action, thought or judgement, picture yourself speaking to the 1 year old who is just trying to learn how to use a fork to eat their waffle! Smile, sigh, laugh, take a drink, breathe… and try again. Be kind to yourself.
We are an amazing PROCESS.
Presence and Positivity 